Maria* and Carlos* never wanted to leave Honduras with their three children, they told me. But then gangs began threatening Carlos and their 13-year-old son Eddy*. The family moved houses, but one evening masked men came to their little shop. “They pulled out a pistol,” Carlos told me, and said, “‘Open up or we’ll kill you.’” After that, “They took everything. They only left the refrigerator and the freezer. And they said if you go to the police, it will be the end of you. You will have no family, nothing. You know who you’re dealing with.” The men gave them 24 hours to get out.
Maria and Carlos are among the dozens of Honduran and Salvadoran parents and children my colleague Mike Bochenek and I interviewed on the Mexico-Guatemala border in March. Their stories followed common themes: boys threatened to join gangs, girls facing rape by gang members, parents extorted and killed.
Some said they would stay in Mexico, but were terrified of gang members from their countries moving around there. Additionally, some knew Mexico’s migrant system was more likely to lock them up than offer legal protection and, at best, would leave them without work and their children without school – for months or years. For many, the United States offered the best chance for safety.
When the couple finished their story, Carlos, who had a black rosary around his neck, was wiping his eyes. Maria shifted uncomfortably, her ankle, injured from a fall on the journey, elevated in a chair.
We turned to their daughter Lilian*, 7, who wore a pink ruffled dress and had spread a paperback of Christian bible stories across her knees. She read to us through two missing front teeth, her older brother leaning over her shoulder and helping with the long words.
I met this family three months ago. By now, they could have made the dangerous journey to the US border. If they did, I wonder if Eddy, Lilian, and their 3-year-old sister Ana are still with their parents. Are strange teenagers changing Ana’s diaper? Were they faced with the impossible choice of being deported together to serious risk of danger or staying separated in an abusive detention system?
Will this little family be whole and safe again?
Trump’s new executive order exchanges family separation for indefinite family detention, which also does terrible and long-lasting harm to children. Families fleeing violence should have the chance to seek protection without further trauma inflicted on their children.